The Secret to Overcoming Bitterness

The Secret to Overcoming Bitterness

Written by Vinnie Tumia

As kids, we all struggled with sharing our stuff. Whether it was a cookie or our favorite toy, we selfishly protected of our possessions. Separation anxiety convinced us we could not part ways, even for a moment. Truthfully, we grow older, but we don’t really grow up. The struggle with selfishness remains in our DNA until we breathe our last. The toys may change, but the attitude remains. We hold to jealousy as a protection from loss or hurt. This, in a nutshell, is the dilemma in which Job finds himself.

Job 42:10 “And the Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.”

Job went through some of the most intense and demoralizing circumstances ever recorded. His closest friends, who should have been encouraging shoulders to cry on, were instead his harshest critics. These friends were scavengers picking through his life to find fault, and blame him for all his difficulties.

When his trials were over, and God was preparing to restore Job, He asked him to do a seemingly impossible thing. God told Job to ask for a blessing on those who betrayed him. “Bless them, and I will more than bless you.” Then God waited…and Job did it! While most of us would stew over that, Job selflessly interceded for those that wished him harm. “.. he prayed for his friends”.

We usually avoid praying even a token prayer for the benefit of someone we don’t really care about. But God told Job to take it up a notch and sincerely request a blessing for them. This seems pretty miraculous.

God told Job to ask for a blessing on those who betrayed him.

When Job finished his prayer, God kept His part of the deal. “The Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed.”

When someone hurts us, we cherish the perceived control bitterness offers. We selfishly and stubbornly protect the hurt like a child does a new toy. However, this selfish choice is the equivalent of telling God not to bless us! Is it any wonder how often we wander in mundane living and sense distance from God? And all because of our ego.

How do we overcome bitterness?

1. Face our hurts head-on and choose to forgive. We can choose to forgive, rather than wait for a desire to do so.
2. Pray with passion for God to honor those who hurt us, in whatever way He chooses.

Sometimes we will find our biggest blessings from God in a box labeled “Forgiveness.”

1 Comment
  • Trish Posted March 23, 2022 7:26 pm

    This was so timely and encouraging..Thank you for the teaching

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