We celebrated dad this last Sunday. We all have stories of growing up and what we remember from him. There will be some good and some not so good as we reminisce. As a dad, the journey seems difficult as we try to temper ourselves as well as help our family find the right path. Becoming a father is easy, being a good father is immeasurably more difficult.
Reading the national news on any given day brings convincing evidence that common sense is a fad of the past. It has less of a chance than nylon bell-bottoms. What once seemed right or wrong is now questioned in both directions.
The family unit is one of the saddest categories of deficiency in this generation. It seems that parents get bewitched into believing that no matter what, everything will turn out alright. So many sit back and hope for the best. Here is an interesting perspective from God.
“[the ostrich] leaveth her eggs in the earth, and warmeth them in dust, And forgetteth that the foot may crush them, or that the wild beast may break them. She is hardened against her young ones, as though they were not hers: her labor is in vain without fear; Because God hath deprived her of wisdom, neither hath he imparted to her understanding.”
The ostrich leaves the survival of her offspring to chance. She puts her eggs where they are prone to the dangers of wild animals and wayward boots. The middle of a well-trodden path seems like a good idea to her. She doesn’t recognize the obvious dangers. The worst part of the story is that her “kids” suffer from her simplicity more than she does. (“She is hardened against her young ones, as though they were not hers”).
Becoming a father is easy, being a good father is immeasurably more difficult.
Parents need to take careful warning. The hands-off approach with limited time together and even less mentoring does not work. The assumption that our friendship with our kids will trump bad behavior is faulty at best. Parents convince themselves that it’s too risky to rock the boat. This thinking is equal to leaving a helpless baby in the middle of a busy highway. It is our form of ostrich thinking.
We must have a higher goal than getting our kids through with as few scars as possible. We must move our families from the danger zone with intentional mentoring and quality time. It’s hard and exhausting work, but always worth the effort. A beginner list here may stir your creativity for your own ideas and plans:
- Schedule regular date or activity nights.
- Find a place to volunteer together.
- Do chores together rather than everyone on their own.
- Pray for and locate a young, godly mentor for your teenage son or daughter.
- Find a book you can both read and discuss together.
- Be your kids biggest fan and attend their special events.
Remember, it’s not too late until it’s too late. We cannot allow our naivety be our children’s identity. Becoming a parent is easy, being a good parent is immeasurably more difficult.